Tag Archive | Women’s rights

Fifty shades of abuse?

 

 

 

I heard today a UK charity called for people to hand over their copies of Fifty Shades of Grey so they can be burnt in a huge bonfire.

 

While I don’t like the idea of burning books or any forms of extremism and intolerance (remember the Nazis?)

 

"North Hampton is a Domestic violence fre...

“North Hampton is a Domestic violence free-zone” (Massachussetts) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

, I can see their point. I like to listen to both sides. That said, I’m really uncomfortable with the idea. Burning books, burning flags? No. What will this achieve?

 

 

 

One can only hope this is done to shock in hope of garnering publicity for the charity and highlight what victims of domestic violence go through. I can also understand this charity’s frustration as authorities cut down on the services they provide for these victims. Not so long ago some of these women were told by their local authorities to go and sleep in the Occupy movement tents because of a lack of hostels.

 

Really? What a ridiculous suggestion!

 

 

 

When I was asked, as an author, for my views on the Fifty Shades phenomenon, I declined to comment, pointing out I hadn’t read them. No problem, they said, we’ll send you a copy right away. Ah thanks, not my type of book was my reply.

 

I have toyed with the idea of reading them since everywhere you look, someone is talking about it. Comments, reviews, articles in newspapers, you can’t escape the wildfire.

 

The more I read, the less I was inclined to read these books, even though I enjoy reading different genres and have at times been nicely surprised. It’s just not for me and that’s fine.

 

 

 

The fantasy of the young virgin being taken in charge by a millionaire is nothing new, but I baulk at the idea of reading a novel where someone enjoys inflicting pain. Oh, but he has a tormented past. Hmm, so what? Many more have had a difficult start in life, no reason to turn on others, on the contrary. There is a time when people have to grow up and make their own choices.

 

While victims can find solace and healing with others, this sounds a bit extreme. Most of the healing has to start from within. Imagine if all of us who had a difficult childhood did this? In reality, you can’t just change people, not unless they want to.

 

Some will say this is a novel, no harm done. Perhaps, but will it do anything to help change attitudes about rape and violence?

 

Each to their own, but let’s not forget the vulnerable, the victims. While everybody are making jokes, they’re still suffering.

 

 

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Life and the universe

A while ago, I was asked to come up with some personal quotes. I’d like to share them with you. Many have been taken from various posts I have written and magazine articles.

Hope you will enjoy my “philosophy”!

  • We do not have to suffer our lives or wait for some miracle to happen so let’s embrace life. Even on the darkest of days, there is always something to be grateful about, some small mercy.
  • Learn from your past, whether good or bad and then move on!
  • This madness possessing me, the one that stops me in my tracks, forcing me to write, so compulsive and obsessive.
  • As a young child I believed and hoped, it made me a survivor.We are free to survive our lives and to live them to the fullest.Given time and hope, it is amazing what you can accomplish.
  • Writing a blog, I find is an excellent way to let out the torrent of thoughts and ideas raging in my head.
  • Feminism means different things to people.For me,it just means respecting women as much as men and thus giving women the same rights and opportunities as men.
  • What I have learned that it is ok to be different,we are not clones after all! We are all different ,some of us just a little more than others.
  • I explain to my children that life is a long endless cycle.Many things may happen,little and not so little tragedies but sooner or later there will be rejoicing again.It’s the circle of life.
  • The more you learn , the more you realise how much more there is to know.How exciting it is to be on a perpetual voyage of discovery!  The constant struggle between my brain, sleep and words.
  • So many reasons why food no longer is about eating and becomes the focus of your problems, masking the real issues.
  • I’m very instinctive and mostly I write because it keeps me sane, I hope !
  • Don’t change your perception of me once you learn where I come from, because you’d be wrong and I’m so tired of having to justify myself, my roots or my nationality !
  • One thing for sure, all the women in my family are strong and stubborn, my daughter is following the same path, in a good way !
  • More than ever I respect life as always, life is precious and we all have something to give, sometimes it just takes time to appreciate what we can all achieve.
  • I suppose I’ve always had a strong survival instinct, a belief deep down that there is always a light at the end of the darkest of tunnels.
  • So many obstacles,  Yet, we do go on,  Giving up is not an option.

So, what is so wrong with feminism?!

I am a feminist,to me,woman = feminist.

Feminism means different things to people.For me,it just means respecting women as much as men and thus giving women the same rights and opportunities as men.

There are some women out there giving the wrong idea about feminism
In all ways of life, you will find people with radical views.

You can not discriminate against all feminists ,just because there are a few rogue ones.

So yes, I’m a woman and a feminist and I’m proud of it.

And no, feminists do not hate men, only a few do and I wouldn’t like to associate myself with them.

So tell me, what is so wrong about feminism?!
Surely if you’re a woman, you will want to have the same rights and opportunities as men!

Do you not want to be able to make decisions for yourself ?!
Or do you want to go back to the good old days when women had no rights!

PS For those who don’t know me,I’m also  proud Mummy and homeschool my two children while juggling my writing.I’m also very much in love ,definitely not a man-hater.
I also believe in making your own choices, not whatever is expected of you or what you think society expects you to do.