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Fifty shades of abuse?

 

 

 

I heard today a UK charity called for people to hand over their copies of Fifty Shades of Grey so they can be burnt in a huge bonfire.

 

While I don’t like the idea of burning books or any forms of extremism and intolerance (remember the Nazis?)

 

"North Hampton is a Domestic violence fre...

“North Hampton is a Domestic violence free-zone” (Massachussetts) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

, I can see their point. I like to listen to both sides. That said, I’m really uncomfortable with the idea. Burning books, burning flags? No. What will this achieve?

 

 

 

One can only hope this is done to shock in hope of garnering publicity for the charity and highlight what victims of domestic violence go through. I can also understand this charity’s frustration as authorities cut down on the services they provide for these victims. Not so long ago some of these women were told by their local authorities to go and sleep in the Occupy movement tents because of a lack of hostels.

 

Really? What a ridiculous suggestion!

 

 

 

When I was asked, as an author, for my views on the Fifty Shades phenomenon, I declined to comment, pointing out I hadn’t read them. No problem, they said, we’ll send you a copy right away. Ah thanks, not my type of book was my reply.

 

I have toyed with the idea of reading them since everywhere you look, someone is talking about it. Comments, reviews, articles in newspapers, you can’t escape the wildfire.

 

The more I read, the less I was inclined to read these books, even though I enjoy reading different genres and have at times been nicely surprised. It’s just not for me and that’s fine.

 

 

 

The fantasy of the young virgin being taken in charge by a millionaire is nothing new, but I baulk at the idea of reading a novel where someone enjoys inflicting pain. Oh, but he has a tormented past. Hmm, so what? Many more have had a difficult start in life, no reason to turn on others, on the contrary. There is a time when people have to grow up and make their own choices.

 

While victims can find solace and healing with others, this sounds a bit extreme. Most of the healing has to start from within. Imagine if all of us who had a difficult childhood did this? In reality, you can’t just change people, not unless they want to.

 

Some will say this is a novel, no harm done. Perhaps, but will it do anything to help change attitudes about rape and violence?

 

Each to their own, but let’s not forget the vulnerable, the victims. While everybody are making jokes, they’re still suffering.

 

 

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Bin Laden dead, is that the end?

Will there ever be an end to this hatred?

I do not understand all the celebrations taking place in the US, the jubilation. 

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/crowds-gather-in-us-cities-after-bin-laden-killed-2277848.html

Has ‘justice’ really been done? And how can anyone celebrate a person being killed? 

Wouldn’t a quiet gathering to remember all the victims be more respectful? Is there really cause for jubilation?

Terrible things have happened. I remember that September day vividly, listening to the news, unable to comprehend. 

Nobody knows how to solve such a tragedy, one that is far from being over. His death will make him a martyr. There is no right and wrong. The ‘problem’ will not go away with his death.

What will happen now? More attacks, more hatred. That we can be sure of.


“Please let them celebrate, they are celebrating their own end,” said Abu Aziza on the Islamic Awakening forum. “Oh Allah destroy this nation for their hatred and enmity toward your deen (religion).”

I’m writing this, chilled to the bone. How do you explain all this to young children. What legacy are leaving for them?
What happens next?
This is not a time for jubilation, but for reflection.
  •  “I’ve never wished a man dead, but I have read some obituaries with great pleasure.” –Mark Twain
Well, I wouldn’t say pleasure but I certainly will not miss him and all that he represents.

  • Boris Vian wrote a book called ‘J’irai cracher sur vos tombes”, which means I will spit on your graves.
I think it’s time to move on from all the hatred and learn from all the mistakes.

“I mourn the loss of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy.” – 

I saw that quote on the internet like many, attributed to Martin Luther King. Some say it was a rehash of one of his speeches…
Whether it is or not, it reflects my feelings.

Too much information

Sometimes, watching the news unfold can be all too overwhelming.

So much suffering, hatred, violence…

Why does the society we live in behave in such a way?

  • A woman finds herself, pursued by a man and forced to perform fellatio on him.It’s the middle of the night, in a deserted street in France.
  • Her crime, she overtook him.
  • Reactions to an article reporting this appalling incident included crude remarks, forgetting the horror of the situation.
  • Tweets abounded on Twitter, some rather disgusting.
  • Cheap comments on how she should have done this or that, easy to say when you haven’t been in this situation.

Sometimes, it’s nice to take a step back and go back to your own reality.I have my own battle with health to

fight and my lovely children to look after.

Being passionate, at times, hurts too much and saps your energy.There is only so much one person can do.

It is often my downfall to care too much and to get too involved.

Luckily, I have someone by my side who reminds me to look after myself.

I look at my children whom I want to give all I’ve got, all the energy I have.

  • We can all do our bit to contribute to a better world, on our own and also united.
  • We should always remember to respect each other.
  • I believe in humanity, I am also a dreamer.
  • A dreamer like John Lennon singing “Imagine…”

So, I won’t stop caring, obviously.I’ll just try and remember to

take better care of myself and I certainly will not forget to

spend precious time with my children.